
Frances
Alexander started Women Welcome Women (as it was known then) in
1984. Her idea to encourage international friendship by enabling
women to visit one another in their own homes was publicised in
Women of Europe, a magazine of the then EEC. Enquiries soon flooded
in, and Frances started circulating an up-to-date membership list,
which 5W has continued to do as it has grown.
Her
philosophy of international friendship permeates 5W, now a Company
Limited by Guarantee operating as a non-profit Trust. There are
few rules, the most important being the confidentiality of the list.
Members do not pay a fee, they make a donation to the Trust Fund.
In some parts of the world, women cannot send money but are still
welcomed to the membership and greatly appreciate visits by members
from other countries.
There
is also an ethos of increasing women's self-confidence. "Planning
to spend a weekend with a member in a nearby country and carrying
through that plan, making new friendships, noticing differences
of interest in the lifestyles in the foreign country are great ways
of gaining self-confidence and becoming articulate," says Frances.
She
left school to become a nurse and then a midwife. Wanting to break
away from health service constraints, she took a teaching course
before marrying. When her children were small she started a private
nursing agency. This was to be a formative time in her life. She
interviewed 600 women in 4 years, many were qualified nurses who
felt apprehensive about returning to work after taking time off
to have their children. A bout of meningitis forced the sale of
the agency and then there was a nine-year spell of teaching - for
the last years as girls' careers adviser. Part-time teaching then
overlapped with setting up Women Welcome Women.
Frances
has travelled throughout Europe, across N & S America and
to Australia staying all the time with 5W members. Her work
for friendship among women all over the world led to her nomination
for the 1996 Woman of Europe Award. In October 2001, Frances travelled
across the USA, meeting members experiencing the traumatic aftermath
of September 11th. In June/July 2002 she travelled in southern Russia,
building on those links of friendship and understanding. She has
no plans to stop, although has now retired from the 5W office, where
she has been Company Secretary and Office Manager.
There
has been another thread to Frances's life during the past 25 years:
Liberal Democrat politics. She was elected to her local District
Council in 1991; following the elections in May 1995 she became
chair of their Strategic Policy Board. Her first agenda had items
about links with Europe and the Third World. In 1997, she became
Chairman of Wycombe District Council and dedicated her year to promote
Local Agenda 21 - think globally, act locally! 1998-99 saw her in
the 700-year-old role of Mayor of High Wycombe.
Frances
has also been Chairman of Governors of a First School in High Wycombe
- the first in the UK to institute the Parents as (First) Teachers
programme, originating in the USA. PA(F)T recognises that the parent
is the child's first and most influential teacher and helps the
parent to be the best teacher he/she can be.
Asked
why she has been involved in all these things, Frances replies:
"I like to see things happen!"